Alcohol Substitute

Seph

Many people make a vow to abstain from
alcohol, often citing religious reasons. (Often religious people might use alcohol as an issue of judgment. I know there is a tension
between the Evangelical and Catholics on this issue - among others - and Muslims also come to mind.)

There was an Evangelical wedding my
wife and I were invited to several years ago that was quite the
experience; one we'll never forget.

No alcohol.

None.

No cash bar. No open
bar. No wine on the tables, but grape juice for the toasts. Don't get
me wrong. It isn't that I need alcohol to have fun. It's not that I
need alcohol to celebrate. It's that there wasn't really any
celebrating. Strictly controlled speeches. No music. No dancing.

It was like fun
was replaced with fear.

That is the point that haunts me to this day, and has heavily
affected a decision I made last summer on holiday (August 2012). I
promised myself to give up drink. No, there was no event or
embarrassment that initiated it. Just a point I came to in my
personal journey towards solace and compassion.

However,
I have zero tolerance for using this promise for any degree of
attention. We all know these people. At some celebration or social
event they decide to make it about their abstinence or their belief, at the passive judgement and potential guilt of others. No, that was
never the purpose for me. I would have no difficulty with a glass of
wine at a toast or social engagement should it merit it. (And
incidentally this made me appreciate and savor the tastes more than
before).

I know
what you're thinking because I thought it myself. “That's
not making a vow to abstain from alcohol”.

~

Maybe
we should explore some traditional understandings or assumptions
about 'vows'. Many of our “Western Traditions” or beliefs or
religions – like the Evangelical, Catholic, or Muslim mentioned
earlier – are ethical systems governed by rules. They are based on
obedience to regulations and consequences. Failure or disobedience comes with
moral guilt and fear of punishment. Ultimately, whether intentionally or not, it is a system of fear - and in turn - punishment. Taking a vow of alcohol abstinence in this tradition can only end in a fear of failure. There are no degrees or gradations allowed, for its purpose is not focused on personal growth or improvement, because improvement is an ongoing process, and process involves growth, and growth involves failure.

I
don't believe this is spiritually healthy.

In the Mindfulness tradition
the practices governing ethical behaviour are primarily concerned
with shaping personal character. If one falls short of the promise,
they simply take note of the shortcoming and vow to do better on the
next occasion, without the feeling of incompetence or moral guilt.

This
particular way of approaching ethical conduct invites the individual
to act morally – not to avoid punishment
(I don't run a red traffic light because I'm afraid of getting a
ticket, but because I understand the danger I put myself and others
in), but for the more positive and constructive purpose of refining
one's character and promoting the well-being of the world (solace and
compassion). This Mindfulness tradition uses neither the stick nor
the carrot. (I am not given a reward for my good behaviour).

Making a vow in these two traditions involve drastically different functionalities.

~

I
suppose my 'vow of alcohol abstinence' was more one of moderation and refraining from abuse. But the more I thought about
it, the more I came to realize it was closer to Buddhism's 5^th
precept:

“I shall endeavor not to consume
toxins.”

Alcohol is not
necessarily a poison, but it can be. However, there are a great many
mind-inflicting toxins out there.

Historically, the
precept to refrain from consuming toxins referred specifically to the
use of alcohol, but the intent of this principle was simply to
diminish the destructive effects of drunkenness. The use of alcohol
can obviously affect the ability to think clearly, but alcohol
isn't the only substance that can affect our ability to think clearly. Adhering to the
spirit of this precept would necessarily mean becoming aware of any
substance that could impair our mental and bodily functions, such as
tobacco and mind-altering drugs.

Promising
to observe this precept means nothing less than monitoring the things
we allow into our bodies and into our minds.

Guarding our minds
from intoxication and toxicity would necessarily include being aware
of the kinds of information we take in. Gossip, slander, toxic people, poisonous attitudes, and some media. (Is watching Simon Cowell degrade and humiliate hopeful young artists and singers really entertainment? What does it say about you if you enjoy this?)

Religion can be a
dangerous addiction.

Religiosity is a
consumable toxin. And for those who would make this vow of
alcohol/toxin abstinence – especially for religious reasons – I
would advise them to search deeply and tread carefully.

Do not replace one
with another more difficult to abstain from and near impossible to
identify or be aware of. In fact, one could argue that Religiosity
has a built-in system to keep its addicts blind to their affliction –
fear of punishment and moral guilt. Perpetually conditioned to believe themselves undeserving and inadequate.

For me, these past six months have been yet another exercise in approaching the Mu Portal; freeing myself from the fetters that shackle and bind me.

I don't think is it overly important whether we take this 'vow' to not consume toxins, but I think it is extremely important that we take an inventory of toxins within our daily lives. Alcohol would seem to be the lest of our worries.

Galadriel

I know someone who is very conscious about never consuming alcohol (or even being around people who are drinking if they can help it.)

This person does this even when they're far away from home and there's no chance anyone from their community will see what's happening.

They thinks being caught with a beer will damage their Christian witness.

When this person's children were growing up their spouse verbally, emotionally and physically abused their kids. This person never defended the children. In fact, they administered some of the beatings and have always stuck up for the abusive parent.

At least in this case I think this person's strong feelings about not drinking have been transferred from equally strong emotions (guilt? regret?) about things they can no longer have any control over.

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